futuredivot 0 #1 July 19, 2009 We all self edit when we're around people, social standards demand it-and that's a good thing. If you're in a stable relationship you definitely don't say everything that comes to mind. Is there anyone in your life that gets the worst you have to offer? The most tasteless jokes, most un-pc observations. Nothing is off the table when you're talking to this person. Sort of an offshoot of something I said to Bolas today. He gets to hear me at my most obnoxious and abrasive. You gotta have one friend like thatYou are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LyraM45 0 #2 July 19, 2009 I find that being in a stable relationship means that you CAN say everything that comes to mind. I find that the only person I have that with is my fiance' and for the most part my mother... she's a really cool lady that I really can say anything to.Apologies for the spelling (and grammar).... I got a B.S, not a B.A. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
banesanura 1 #3 July 19, 2009 Everyone- except family and anyone under the age of 18. If you are over 18 not related to me...then you get the unedited me.Best Girl Scout Ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #4 July 19, 2009 No....TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futuredivot 0 #5 July 19, 2009 QuoteI find that being in a stable relationship means that you CAN say everything that comes to mind You don't protect your partner's feelings....at all?You are only as strong as the prey you devour Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
boinky 0 #7 July 19, 2009 I think I'm probably edited most of the time. At least to some extent. I tell off color jokes and vent when I'm upset about something. But there's things that I won't do/say around ANYBODY! Body functions are particularly a no-no! In fact, the first time one of my kids heard me burp, I thought they were going to die of shock! Nina Are we called "DAWGs" because we stick our noses up people's butts? (RIP Buzz) Yep, you're a postwhore-billyvance Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Twoply 0 #8 July 19, 2009 My woman. She especially hears some funky stuff between the sheets! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
D22369 0 #9 July 19, 2009 Everyone- except family and anyone under the age of 18.*** This, I try to tone it down when kids are present, but when they are not I am comfortable with myself and act the way that I do - I know with my warped sense of humor that I am not some peoples cup o tea but I will not pretend to be someone that I am not just so people will like me - they can just leave and avoid me in the future. RoyThey say I suffer from insanity.... But I actually enjoy it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #10 July 19, 2009 Those around when I'm drinking rum. It seems like that is one thing that can drown out the "Now, Karen, be nice" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #11 July 19, 2009 Bolas pretty much is the unedited me but I tend to feed off other people more than most probably. Prolly have more of those "I'm going to hell for laughing about this or responding back" moments with Divot than most others though. In fact people are sometimes surprised that I can edit and behave myself if need be. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zep 0 #12 July 19, 2009 The ex wife, ( 18 years divorced) all the things I could't say to her then I'm saying now. we are becoming really good friends. The ocean that separates us means we will never now be more than just friends. Gone fishing Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #13 July 19, 2009 most people i know get the unedited me. Those i call friends definitely do. The kids i work with get an edited version of me. Those on here who have met me could probably atest to meeting ME not a wtaered down version of me.You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FlyingJ 0 #14 July 19, 2009 Patients/the public in general get an edited version while I'm working, but that's it. Can't say that's always been the case with co-workers, but I'm working with a pretty good group of people these days. There are a lot of barriers that come down when you live together while at work. Also used to present a mostly edited version of myself when dating. Finally realized that they need to know who I am from the beginning. If they don't like it, fine, but I'd rather find out sooner than later.Killing threads since 2004. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #15 July 19, 2009 My shrink (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #16 July 19, 2009 I often get into trouble for *not* editing myself.. The only way I edit is by not saying something I would like to say.. Otherwise, I don't change my behaviour. I'm still most comfortable saying anything around my ex, and weirdly enough his mother. The only thing I censor is stuff about her son.. Don't want her to feel like she needs to take sides."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #17 July 19, 2009 QuoteI find that being in a stable relationship means that you CAN say everything that comes to mind. Exactly ... O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #18 July 19, 2009 QuoteQuoteI find that being in a stable relationship means that you CAN say everything that comes to mind. Exactly ... O But it doesn't mean that you SHOULD!! The answer to "Does my arse look big?" - is not "Yes".... unless you like hospital food. (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
iambeav2 0 #19 July 19, 2009 8-5 I'm edited with patients. My boss, coworkers, lady, DZ ladies that love me , and anyone who experiences me whilst drinking gets 100% UNEDITED beav. I have a shirt I just got that I love to wear out...2 actually. On states "Instant asshole....just add alcohol" and the other "Hangover...God's way of letting you know you kicked ass last night!!" ...it's not the fact that you don't appreciate what you have until it's gone...it's the fact that you don't appreciate what you have until someone appreciates it for you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
monkycndo 0 #20 July 19, 2009 Quote Those on here who have met me could probably atest to meeting ME not a wtaered down version of me. You know, you could try it every once in a while.*awaits unedited, genuine, non watered reply*50 donations so far. Give it a try. You know you want to spank it Jump an Infinity Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OlympiaStoica 0 #21 July 19, 2009 Quote Quote Quote I find that being in a stable relationship means that you CAN say everything that comes to mind. Exactly ... O But it doesn't mean that you SHOULD!! The answer to "Does my arse look big?" - is not "Yes".... unless you like hospital food. Ha ha ... true . Well, I have nobody to be "unedited" with right now, but you bring up a good point - does being "unedited" with the one you love mean that you are taking him/her for granted? O Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #22 July 19, 2009 Hmmm...I have recently taken a new tact in relationships and I like it. I AM saying everything I want to say and ask the same of her. That doesn't mean I don't search for the correct words to present it the way I really want to. Sometimes spouting out something causes problems and doesn't really convey what was intended either. I'm not sure finding the proper words counts as editing. "Does this make my arse look big?" doesn't have to be a yes or no question. And the answer can obviously be prefaced with something complimentary about the said 'arse' before answering that the particular garment is not flattering to an otherwise lovely portion of the SO's body. Is that editing? I think it is a more complete and considered response.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #23 July 19, 2009 Quote You gotta have one friend like that I do...it's you. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #24 July 19, 2009 Quote Quote Those on here who have met me could probably atest to meeting ME not a wtaered down version of me. You know, you could try it every once in a while.*awaits unedited, genuine, non watered reply* No need to, those who matter dont mind the real me, and those who mind dont matterYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #25 July 19, 2009 Quote Quote Quote Quote I find that being in a stable relationship means that you CAN say everything that comes to mind. Exactly ... O But it doesn't mean that you SHOULD!! The answer to "Does my arse look big?" - is not "Yes".... unless you like hospital food. Ha ha ... true . Well, I have nobody to be "unedited" with right now, but you bring up a good point - does being "unedited" with the one you love mean that you are taking him/her for granted? O If both are doing it? No. If both say they are doing it or the other thinks both are doing it, but one really isn't then I can see how they could feel they were being taken for granted. Of course if one feels that way about someone they love they should talk about it with them.Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
