npgraphicdesign 3 #1 June 8, 2011 Curious if anyone here has cut off ties with any family members. I just severed all ties with my stepbrother, and while we didn't have that an extremely close relationship to begin with, today was a breaking point. He is Narcissus redefined, and if there was a modern-day movie about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, he'd have been the perfect candidate. When a simple request from me (a request for a suggestion about finding a good place to live in the city) a generated a expletive filled email, I wrote him back a very stinging, yet polite email, and cut him off. His response to my email was a "f*** you" from which I gathered that my email got to him. Blocked his email, erased his number from my phone, and completely cut him off. Has anyone here had to cut off their family members, and have you regretted it for one reason or another, or was it the right decision? Just curious what people's thoughts are. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PiLFy 0 #2 June 8, 2011 What's that old saying about being able to pick your friends, but not your family? It's true. Yes, I have. I've regretted the necessity, but never the act. It was no spur of the moment decision. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldwomanc6 40 #3 June 8, 2011 Are you grown up? Are you independent? Are they toxic? Just because they are blood relations (or sort of), doesn't give them the right to treat you like crap. You have the right to say who is a part of your everyday life, and who can go away and never be dealt with again. The hard part is making it stick. Sometimes, they know exactly the buttons to push to suck you back in, and make you think it is you, not them who is the a-hole. For what it's worth, my little sister is a horrible, cruel, vindictive, blackmailing bitch. I never talk to her anymore. I don't anticipate seeing her before my mother's funeral, and then only to honor my mom. I doubt I will ever see her or talk to her after. We live on opposite coasts, so I guess that makes it easier (?)lisa WSCR 594 FB 1023 CBDB 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #4 June 8, 2011 QuoteCurious if anyone here has cut off ties with any family members. I just severed all ties with my stepbrother, and while we didn't have that an extremely close relationship to begin with, today was a breaking point. He is Narcissus redefined, and if there was a modern-day movie about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, he'd have been the perfect candidate. When a simple request from me (a request for a suggestion about finding a good place to live in the city) a generated a expletive filled email, I wrote him back a very stinging, yet polite email, and cut him off. His response to my email was a "f*** you" from which I gathered that my email got to him. Blocked his email, erased his number from my phone, and completely cut him off. Has anyone here had to cut off their family members, and have you regretted it for one reason or another, or was it the right decision? Just curious what people's thoughts are. There are toxic people in everyones lives. It is best to remove them from your life lest they affect you negatively. Its a huge win win for everyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #5 June 8, 2011 Yes. Both parents."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d_squared431 0 #6 June 8, 2011 Yes....TPM Sister#130ONTIG#1 I love vodka.I love vodka cause it rhymes with Tuaca~LisaH You having a clean thought is like billyvance having a clean post.iluvtofly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #7 June 8, 2011 No, but I've had it attempted on me many times. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shermanator 4 #8 June 8, 2011 cut my dad out for about a year. I let him back in my life because it was hurting my brother too much. I have now cut my aunt out. She is too supportive of my childmolester uncle, even helping him move back to california after he got out of the pen. On that same note, that uncle will probably be dead, if he ever showed his face near me.CLICK HERE! new blog posted 9/21/08 CSA #720 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 3 #9 June 8, 2011 Yes, I have... It sucks for a good long while, but it gets a little easier in the long run. "I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #10 June 8, 2011 Quote No, but I've had it attempted on me many times. That'll teach you for questioning the green beans on the pizza."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
squirrel 0 #11 June 8, 2011 Yes. From your description, they could be a O/C? ________________________________ Where is Darwin when you need him? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
guppie01 0 #12 June 8, 2011 QuoteThere are toxic people in everyones lives. It is best to remove them from your life lest they affect you negatively. Its a huge win win for everyone. Such true words. OP, I cut my brother out of life. It's been 6 years now... I don't miss him, I miss my nieces. The family has a really tough time with it, and my Mom tries to throw guilt trips on me about it, but it's better this way for all parties involved. g"Let's do something romantic this Saturday... how bout we bust out the restraints?" Raddest Ho this side of Jersey #1 - MISS YOU OMG, is she okay? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #13 June 8, 2011 It's funny about those guilt trips. Often the most toxic member of a family is the most defended. "Oh, but he's such a nice guy." etc. I think that kind of treatment is a big part of why toxic people turn out that way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jrmrangers 0 #14 June 8, 2011 I have a brother in law thats exactly that John, incredibly well defended by his seemingly blind to his bullshit mother!! Ive had to bail this kid out several times (including with $2000 for a lawyer this morning) and everyone in the familly just seems to continue to fall for his bullshit. My problem is if i dont help his mother will and she is in no position to help anyone financially. She would probably eat cat food for a month than have her little angel suffer, it kills me because she is a good woman.Wait , I pull what first? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #15 June 8, 2011 QuoteI have a brother in law thats exactly that John, incredibly well defended by his seemingly blind to his bullshit mother!! Ive had to bail this kid out several times (including with $2000 for a lawyer this morning) and everyone in the familly just seems to continue to fall for his bullshit. My problem is if i dont help his mother will and she is in no position to help anyone financially. She would probably eat cat food for a month than have her little angel suffer, it kills me because she is a good woman. I have a friend who is dating a woman who has a son that has never held a stable job, and she is constantly bailing him out of the trouble he and his equally-irresponsible wife are always getting into. In fact, here is what the fools did just last December: http://www.theindychannel.com/news/26034982/detail.html"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #16 June 8, 2011 QuoteI have a brother in law thats exactly that John, incredibly well defended by his seemingly blind to his bullshit mother!! Ive had to bail this kid out several times (including with $2000 for a lawyer this morning) and everyone in the familly just seems to continue to fall for his bullshit. My problem is if i dont help his mother will and she is in no position to help anyone financially. She would probably eat cat food for a month than have her little angel suffer, it kills me because she is a good woman. Sometimes you have to cut ties with the enabler too...Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VincePetaccio 0 #17 June 8, 2011 Surprised to see so many yeses. I'm another yes. It wasn't hard for me at all. Maybe it's just been so bad for so long that I just really lost all touch with caring whether the person was in my life or not. Some people have told me it's unhealthy because I will soon regret it. Maybe, but it hasn't happened yet. :o]Come, my friends! 'Tis not too late to seek out a newer world! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jrmrangers 0 #18 June 8, 2011 WOW Ryoder thats some example for the kids, shoplifting with your children should be punished with a hammer to the forehead. Bolas it really sux because my mother in law is great to me and my kids especially and id hate to hurt my kids by keeping them away from her too. Beleive me the thought has crossed my mind. Wait , I pull what first? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpsalot-2 3 #19 June 8, 2011 QuoteQuoteI have a brother in law thats exactly that John, incredibly well defended by his seemingly blind to his bullshit mother!! Ive had to bail this kid out several times (including with $2000 for a lawyer this morning) and everyone in the familly just seems to continue to fall for his bullshit. My problem is if i dont help his mother will and she is in no position to help anyone financially. She would probably eat cat food for a month than have her little angel suffer, it kills me because she is a good woman. I have a friend who is dating a woman who has a son that has never held a stable job, and she is constantly bailing him out of the trouble he and his equally-irresponsible wife are always getting into. In fact, here is what the fools did just last December: http://www.theindychannel.com/news/26034982/detail.htmlQuoteIsn't he the "other guy" on "Two and a Half Men" ?Life is short ... jump often. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brucet7 0 #20 June 9, 2011 I have almost no contact with my brother. I have been cutoff by my adopted daughter. I didn't do anything, but she headed in a different direction and we are not part of it.POPS #10623; SOS #1672 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #21 June 9, 2011 I'm 4000km away from all blood family, by choiceYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
champu 1 #22 June 9, 2011 All ties, no. But I live in SoCal, my siblings and parents live in the Midwest and East Coast, my half-aunts and step-sister live in England, South Africa, and Australia, and I don't have a facebook page. So really there wouldn't be a whole lot to cut off besides seeing each other one or two times a year and chatting on the phone every couple months. I get along well with my sisters, their husbands, and my parents, but all of them at the same time can be a bit much. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
usedtajump 1 #23 June 9, 2011 My older brother for about fifteen years. Didn't even go to the funeral when he died about three years ago. The older I get the less I care who I piss off. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzjunky77 0 #24 June 9, 2011 Yes......my father and some of his side of the family and all of my mothers side of the family! But love my mom! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzjunky77 0 #25 June 9, 2011 Also had an Aunt tell me I had mental problems because I like to jump and speedfly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
