davjohns 1 #1 March 27, 2012 How much sex do you think is appropriate in a healthy, committed relationship?I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #2 March 27, 2012 There is no appropriate, there is only what works for the two people involved. Sexual drive and interest varies a lot between people, the important thing is to have a common understanding with your significant other."What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davjohns 1 #3 March 27, 2012 I agree. That's why everyone has to respond from their own point of view.I know it just wouldnt be right to kill all the stupid people that we meet.. But do you think it would be appropriate to just remove all of the warning labels and let nature take its course. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #4 March 27, 2012 Depends on what stage of the relationship you are currently in. - Pre-marriage sex - Post-marriage sex - Bedroom sex - Hallway sexMy reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #5 March 27, 2012 Tharipst says 3 per week is healthy. 2 per is ok anything under 1 per week not. It doesn't have to be sex it can just be cuddling and talking. Furthermore she has told me that a good number of her marriage counseling sessions are with partners who are not having enough sexual contact with each other and on average (and I am so going to get shit for this) it's the woman who is holding out on her man due to something the poor sap did but she no longer recalls why she is mad at him but doesn't with to forgive him and thus is holding out. The other is that the partners were once busy but now have more time and simply forgot about each other but just don't know how to reconnect.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shropshire 0 #6 March 27, 2012 Number of times a WEEK .... WTF (.)Y(.) Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #7 March 27, 2012 QuoteHow much sex do you think is appropriate in a healthy, committed relationship? Depends on the prison. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 3 #8 March 27, 2012 Well, since she's working a crazy schedule, we're down to ~5 times a week, but has been around 10. Matter o fact... I just got out of bed. "I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #9 March 27, 2012 Welcome to marriage, Dave. The audition's over. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #10 March 27, 2012 Quote Depends on what stage of the relationship you are currently in. - Pre-marriage sex - Post-marriage sex - Bedroom sex - Hallway sex Ah yes, I've seen this somewhere before... hallway sex is where the two pass each other in the hall and say "fuck you" to each other. "Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #11 March 27, 2012 Yeah. Married men have lots of sex. There's sex with Palmela, Handgela, Manuela and her sisters... My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 24 #12 March 27, 2012 Quote Yeah. Married men have lots of sex. There's sex with Palmela, Handgela, Manuela and her sisters... If you kept that woman of yours less preggers, maybe you'd have sex more often... Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kallend 1,623 #13 March 27, 2012 I'm slowing down now that I'm over 60. Just 10 - 12 times a week now.... The only sure way to survive a canopy collision is not to have one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heatmiser 0 #14 March 27, 2012 Quote Well, since she's working a crazy schedule, we're down to ~5 times a week, but has been around 10. Matter o fact... I just got out of bed. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o&ob=av3eWhat you say is reflective of your knowledge...HOW ya say it is reflective of your experience. Airtwardo Someone's going to be spanked! Hopefully, it will be me. Skymama Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 3 #15 March 27, 2012 Quote Quote Well, since she's working a crazy schedule, we're down to ~5 times a week, but has been around 10. Matter o fact... I just got out of bed. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o&ob=av3e She's sung it along with me a few times. "I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bertt 0 #16 March 27, 2012 "It doesn't have to be sex it can just be cuddling and talking. " And how much are you paying this therapist?You don't have to outrun the bear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missbrz 0 #17 March 27, 2012 Quote Quote Well, since she's working a crazy schedule, we're down to ~5 times a week, but has been around 10. Matter o fact... I just got out of bed. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o&ob=av3e Another good post-coital song when you don't want to think too hard http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9d6f9j7gAdY Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
amstalder 0 #18 March 28, 2012 Quote Well, since she's working a crazy schedule, we're down to ~5 times a week, but has been around 10. Matter o fact... I just got out of bed. You've only been dating a few months, it will slow down . Oh, and get a job! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
popsjumper 2 #19 March 28, 2012 QuoteYeah. Married men have lots of sex. There's sex with Palmela, Handgela, Manuela and her sisters... Is that a left-handed compliment? I gotta hand it to ya...you know how to handle sticky situations. You must be talking about marriage secrets....you know...where the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing. This is NOT a time for the .My reality and yours are quite different. I think we're all Bozos on this bus. Falcon5232, SCS8170, SCSA353, POPS9398, DS239 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #20 March 28, 2012 QuoteTharipst says 3 per week is healthy. 2 per is ok anything under 1 per week not. It doesn't have to be sex it can just be cuddling and talking. Furthermore she has told me that a good number of her marriage counseling sessions are with partners who are not having enough sexual contact with each other and on average (and I am so going to get shit for this) it's the woman who is holding out on her man due to something the poor sap did but she no longer recalls why she is mad at him but doesn't with to forgive him and thus is holding out. The other is that the partners were once busy but now have more time and simply forgot about each other but just don't know how to reconnect. The notion that a woman is "witholding" sex seems kind of childish and ridiculous to me. I'm not saying it never happens, but the reality is that if a woman is upset with her man, it's *normal* for her not to feel very lovey-dovey toward him. It's not a simple matter of forgiveness... Emotions don't automatically go away when they "should"... It's possible to feel upset over a number of things that separately mean nothing but cumulatively build up to something big. Some men "withold" conversation from women... Equally childish and counter-productive... Lack of communication can be just as upsetting to us as a sex-ban may be to you."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #21 March 28, 2012 QuoteQuoteYeah. Married men have lots of sex. There's sex with Palmela, Handgela, Manuela and her sisters... Is that a left-handed compliment? I gotta hand it to ya...you know how to handle sticky situations. You must be talking about marriage secrets....you know...where the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing. This is NOT a time for the . He's just jerkin' ya around because you're handy...don't let him beat ya down! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kallend 1,623 #22 March 28, 2012 QuoteQuoteTharipst says 3 per week is healthy. 2 per is ok anything under 1 per week not. It doesn't have to be sex it can just be cuddling and talking. Furthermore she has told me that a good number of her marriage counseling sessions are with partners who are not having enough sexual contact with each other and on average (and I am so going to get shit for this) it's the woman who is holding out on her man due to something the poor sap did but she no longer recalls why she is mad at him but doesn't with to forgive him and thus is holding out. The other is that the partners were once busy but now have more time and simply forgot about each other but just don't know how to reconnect. The notion that a woman is "witholding" sex seems kind of childish and ridiculous to me. I'm not saying it never happens, but the reality is that if a woman is upset with her man, it's *normal* for her not to feel very lovey-dovey toward him. It's not a simple matter of forgiveness... Emotions don't automatically go away when they "should"... It's possible to feel upset over a number of things that separately mean nothing but cumulatively build up to something big. Some men "withold" conversation from women... Equally childish and counter-productive... Lack of communication can be just as upsetting to us as a sex-ban may be to you. Using sex (or no-sex) as a weapon is the reason my first wife became my ex-wife. Even the marriage counselor told her it was killing the marriage.... The only sure way to survive a canopy collision is not to have one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #23 March 28, 2012 QuoteUsing sex (or no-sex) as a weapon is the reason my first wife became my ex-wife. Even the marriage counselor told her it was killing the marriage. Like I said, I'm not saying it doesn't happen - just that it's not the norm. In the same way, I would argue that using words (or the silent treatment) as a weapon is also very toxic. Heck, pretty much any time you deliberately try to hurt your partner it's gotta be bad for the relationship. I think in many cases where there is "not enough" sex it's not a deliberate punishment, but a reflection of other problems (either in the relationship or outside of it - like stress/tiredness from work)."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 0 #24 March 28, 2012 QuoteQuoteUsing sex (or no-sex) as a weapon is the reason my first wife became my ex-wife. Even the marriage counselor told her it was killing the marriage. Like I said, I'm not saying it doesn't happen - just that it's not the norm. You're certain of that? Or are you presuming? How many surveys of men married, say, 15+ or 20+ years do you base that on? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 1 #25 March 28, 2012 QuoteQuoteUsing sex (or no-sex) as a weapon is the reason my first wife became my ex-wife. Even the marriage counselor told her it was killing the marriage. Like I said, I'm not saying it doesn't happen - just that it's not the norm. In the same way, I would argue that using words (or the silent treatment) as a weapon is also very toxic. Heck, pretty much any time you try to deliberately try to hurt your partner it's gotta be bad for the relationship. I think in many cases where there is "not enough" sex it's not a deliberate punishment, but a reflection of other problems (either in the relationship or outside of it - like stress/tiredness from work). Very well said Nataly! The root cause could be coming from other issues. Though having said that some people are just plain selfish and manipulative and would do things to directly hurt their loved ones.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
