Nataly 38 #1 September 23, 2012 So... Are you? (Jealous.) Do you think it's normal to be jealous? Do you think it's normal to NOT be jealous? Do you think it's only normal when the other person's behaviour makes you doubt their faithfulness? Discuss "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,384 #2 September 23, 2012 Well, if I can't choose an answer *and* boobies, then I'll just opt for boobies. "There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpwally 0 #3 September 23, 2012 Being jealous is a wasteful human emotion,,,you either are confidant in your relationship or you are not,,i loved having guys hit on my wife,,,i always knew she was going home with me..... ;-)smile, be nice, enjoy life FB # - 1083 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #4 September 23, 2012 So... Are you? (Jealous.) == I voted the "I'm a woman - sometimes" option Do you think it's normal to be jealous? == Yes Do you think it's normal to NOT be jealous? == Yes, everyone's definition and/or comfort level is different Do you think it's only normal when the other person's behaviour makes you doubt their faithfulness? == I call that a gut that's screaming at you. That's what I go by for most situations whether it's fidelity related or just other stuff in life. Discuss Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #5 September 23, 2012 Me jealous? Nope! I'm 6'4" 230 lbs., a trained fighter and an excellent shot... AND my better half is a VERY smart woman. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #6 September 23, 2012 Never been jealous. Don't "get" jealousy... My boyfriend is jealous... He *tries* not to be, but whenever we are in public, he clutches onto me possessively like some other guy might whisk me away when he's not looking... Doesn't make any sense to me because I've never given him any reason to doubt me. I'm like jumpwally - I see someone coming on to my man, and I feel proud/pleased that I get all that handsomeness to myself! He's sexy as hell - it would be weird if I was the only one who noticed!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FlyingPortagee 0 #7 September 23, 2012 Jealousy is the path to the dark side. Jealousy leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in you. Much to learn, you still have. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyMcSwervy 0 #8 September 24, 2012 Quote Never been jealous. Don't "get" jealousy... My boyfriend is jealous... He *tries* not to be, but whenever we are in public, he clutches onto me possessively like some other guy might whisk me away when he's not looking... Doesn't make any sense to me because I've never given him any reason to doubt me. I'm like jumpwally - I see someone coming on to my man, and I feel proud/pleased that I get all that handsomeness to myself! He's sexy as hell - it would be weird if I was the only one who noticed!!! I dated someone just like that. We were on vacation and I went for a run and the gym in the morning and he freaked out. Crazy fucker.Always be kinder than you feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,384 #9 September 24, 2012 Quote Doesn't make any sense to me because I've never given him any reason to doubt me. So you've never told him about your dizzy.com stalkers?"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #10 September 24, 2012 Please I am the SHAH..... Jealous? Really? I mean REALLLY!? You surly jest! That will be all.Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oldwomanc6 38 #11 September 24, 2012 So far I'm the only gal that voted straight "no". It just never occurs to me. I've been cheated on (before mrowc6), and I was the last to know. It seems a waste of time and energy, because it sure as heck isn't going to stop him from straying. Maybe, I'm just plain clueless. lisa WSCR 594 FB 1023 CBDB 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #12 September 24, 2012 Quote Jealousy is the path to the dark side. Jealousy leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in you. Much to learn, you still have. Such fairytale idyllic double dribble you speak, step away from the bong..., your senses are weak! Jealousy is the path to enlightenment if your emotions are governed by the soul. . .the dark side is where go those, who heart looks only out - and never in. Anger is healthy it proves you're alive, it no more leads to hate than contentment does. . . nor does happy lead to love. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference...much to learn indeed. ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,384 #13 September 24, 2012 Quote AND my better half is a VERY smart woman. But she still married *you*???"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 6 #14 September 24, 2012 Quote Quote AND my better half is a VERY smart woman. But she still married *you*??? VERY smart woman! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 14 #15 September 24, 2012 Quote Jealousy is the path to the dark side. Jealousy leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in you. Much to learn, you still have. Yoda? You that is? Yes? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 14 #16 September 24, 2012 Quote The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference...much to learn indeed. Bingo. Jealously is all about lack of trust. If you have trust, you don't have jealousy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #17 September 24, 2012 I dont give a shit what anybody else has, even though I don't have much myself. What matters is living within your means and being happy with that. Fuck all the fancy gadgets/cars/houses bullshit."Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #18 September 24, 2012 Quote I dont give a shit what anybody else has, even though I don't have much myself. What matters is living within your means and being happy with that. Fuck all the fancy gadgets/cars/houses bullshit. What if you live within your means AND have all the fancy gadgets/cars/houses bullshitIt's good to be me You are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 34 #19 September 24, 2012 Quote Quote I dont give a shit what anybody else has, even though I don't have much myself. What matters is living within your means and being happy with that. Fuck all the fancy gadgets/cars/houses bullshit. What if you live within your means AND have all the fancy gadgets/cars/houses bullshitIt's good to be me As long as you're within your means and you want it, its fine with me. Somehow I was thinking of those pro ball players who had multimillion dollar contracts and now are out of the sport and broke already. Fucking dumb asses...."Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nataly 38 #20 September 24, 2012 Quote So far I'm the only gal that voted straight "no". It just never occurs to me. I've been cheated on (before mrowc6), and I was the last to know. It seems a waste of time and energy, because it sure as heck isn't going to stop him from straying. Maybe, I'm just plain clueless. Impossible - I was first to vote and I put "No" I don't think it's because I'm clueless or because I don't care... I'm just not jealous (either in a relationship, or of what other people have/accomplish)."There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kasch 0 #21 September 24, 2012 When I was younger I was a little hot headed and tended to get jealous a lot. I think I grew out of it though. I realized how useless the emotion was and how much trouble it caused. Now I just go with the flow and don't let things bother me, if anything the things I used to flip out about now amuse me. And I honestly think skydiving helped me with this. The adrenaline fueled hippy love vibe makes jealousy kinda pointless. Sex with sith is like sex with a stripper. A lot of flashing lights and waving of glowing sabers, but in the end you end up with something dark and wrinkely. DPH# "-13" TSK# "-13" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #22 September 24, 2012 Nope. I figure I either trust my partner or I don't. If I do, I have nothing to worry about. If I don't, there's a bigger issue there, and I need to reevaluate the relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,121 #23 September 24, 2012 Never jealous about people (I've lived with it, and it really sucks). Sometimes jealous about opportunities, so I had to answer "almost never." Because, well, that's accurate. It's not a positive thing, and I realize that. But such is life. Wendy P.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shah269 0 #24 September 24, 2012 Quote Sometimes jealous about opportunities Wendy, You are the most Zen person I know! You rock! Thank you for being here! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,122 #25 September 24, 2012 I voted yes sometimes. I see jealousness as a manisfestation of self doubt. So when I get a sense of jealousy, I explore why I am feeling it and work on that. I am in a much different relationship than most though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites