promise5 17 #1 June 11, 2014 Anyone else deal with a person acting stalkerish online? I think I've asked this before. It's beyond creepy. I really don't know how to deal with it. They basically just kinda stalk me in forums, threads,etc. ok I'll admit I was pretty trusting and if someone ask me my username on a site I would tell them. No biggie I thought until this person started showing up in all of them making comments and then wanting me to know it was them. I was so thankful when it stopped the last time but Ugh, the person is back. I feel like saying "get a life" but last time I responded they seemed to become more and more obsessed.No matter how slowly you say oranges it never sounds like gullible. Believe me I tried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon 7 #2 June 11, 2014 promise5 Anyone else deal with a person acting stalkerish online? I think I've asked this before. It's beyond creepy. I really don't know how to deal with it. They basically just kinda stalk me in forums, threads,etc. ok I'll admit I was pretty trusting and if someone ask me my username on a site I would tell them. No biggie I thought until this person started showing up in all of them making comments and then wanting me to know it was them. I was so thankful when it stopped the last time but Ugh, the person is back. I feel like saying "get a life" but last time I responded they seemed to become more and more obsessed. Peer pressure from friends can have a very positive effect on most maroons like that. What works for me is just to confront them.. usually most intelligent people realize there are easier targets out there and they move along like nice little scumbags. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Arvoitus 1 #3 June 11, 2014 I probably wouldn't even notice it as I don't take Internet seriously enough to care. But if it did happen I'd feel pleased that I've managed to piss someone off so badly they need to resort something as pointless as stalking me online.Your rights end where my feelings begin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nigel99 402 #4 June 11, 2014 Firstly you ladies need to take things really carefully online. I worked in a company where one of the guys started stalking a female member of staff and it was hell for her, very scary and ended up requiring police involvement. I can't remember where I read it, but most stalkers lose interest if their target isn't active. Remembering that ANY communication can be misconstrued, I know it affects your life but perhaps taking a break from posting for a while will allow (him?) to move on to other people. Another option could be to try and ignore their posts completely, just treating it as noise. Provided you aren't in physical danger or posting stuff that links back to your 'real' life.Experienced jumper - someone who has made mistakes more often than I have and lived. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 3 #5 June 11, 2014 Fine, I'll leave you alone. Sheesh, ya coulda just asked! "I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Southern_Man 0 #6 June 11, 2014 ryoder is mostly harmless"What if there were no hypothetical questions?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 749 #8 June 11, 2014 We HAD a female employee here that filed a sexual harassment complaint against 10 of her coworkers for giving her compliments. One said she "looked pretty" and another had told her "nice dress". She was trying to use it as a defense to her husband after being caught cheating. "I was so stressed due to the harassment at work!" yea....she no longer works here. Humans sure can be crazy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andy9o8 2 #9 June 11, 2014 Quote We HAD a female employee here that filed a sexual harassment complaint against 10 of her coworkers for giving her compliments. One said she "looked pretty" and another had told her "nice dress". Like it or not, ridiculous or not, there's a lesson in that: Just don't do that at work. Ever. Period. Anything other than that is less safe. Quote Humans sure can be crazy. I invite you to slightly edit that. If you dare. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 749 #10 June 11, 2014 can sure. It's sad that what was intended as a compliment would put someone's job at risk. Nice dress is not the same as nice tits. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
promise5 17 #11 June 11, 2014 I would never think compliments were harassment. The woman had issues. Lol on ryoder. He's to busy stalking Nataly. Everyone here is pretty much harmlessNo matter how slowly you say oranges it never sounds like gullible. Believe me I tried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
theonlyski 3 #12 June 11, 2014 promise5 Lol on ryoder. He's to busy stalking Nataly. I'm sure he would make time for you in his busy schedule."I may be a dirty pirate hooker...but I'm not about to go stand on the corner." iluvtofly DPH -7, TDS 578, Muff 5153, SCR 14890 I'm an asshole, and I approve this message Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CSpenceFLY 1 #13 June 11, 2014 It was the porn comment wasn't it? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #14 June 11, 2014 theonlyski *** Lol on ryoder. He's to busy stalking Nataly. I'm sure he would make time for you in his busy schedule. Indeed; I can multitask.But I really need to find some stalkees who don't live so far away."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #15 June 11, 2014 promise5 I would never think compliments were harassment. The woman had issues. Most people in this world are cool. But there's just enough men and women with issues to cause trouble for the rest of us from time to time. With guys, yeah, nature favors the dude that doesn't give up easily. It's just some guys can't figure out they don't have a chance with one woman or another, and they think doubling down will fix it. Not to mention the "creepy" factor of it all. I hear guys saying "Why are all good lucking women so unfriendly?" I tell them "Because if they smile at you even a little, you go bugging them, thinking you have a 'chance'". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
promise5 17 #16 June 11, 2014 It's not just guys that stalk No matter how slowly you say oranges it never sounds like gullible. Believe me I tried. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
quade 4 #18 June 11, 2014 As you might imagine, this is not the first time this subject has come up on the web site. IF this is something happening HERE, please let the moderation staff know.quade - The World's Most Boring Skydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GooniesKid 0 #19 June 11, 2014 promise5Anyone else deal with a person acting stalkerish online? I think I've asked this before. It's beyond creepy. I really don't know how to deal with it. They basically just kinda stalk me in forums, threads,etc. ok I'll admit I was pretty trusting and if someone ask me my username on a site I would tell them. No biggie I thought until this person started showing up in all of them making comments and then wanting me to know it was them. I was so thankful when it stopped the last time but Ugh, the person is back. I feel like saying "get a life" but last time I responded they seemed to become more and more obsessed. I want to make this absolutely clear...this is NOT me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kenthediver 0 #20 June 11, 2014 P5, name and shame! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
normiss 749 #21 June 11, 2014 WHY would you assume it was????? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GooniesKid 0 #22 June 11, 2014 promise5 It's not just guys that stalk are you suggesting women also stalk? if so how differently do they stalk? i wish women would stalk me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mr2mk1g 10 #23 June 11, 2014 GooniesKid ***Anyone else deal with a person acting stalkerish online? I think I've asked this before. It's beyond creepy. I really don't know how to deal with it. They basically just kinda stalk me in forums, threads,etc. ok I'll admit I was pretty trusting and if someone ask me my username on a site I would tell them. No biggie I thought until this person started showing up in all of them making comments and then wanting me to know it was them. I was so thankful when it stopped the last time but Ugh, the person is back. I feel like saying "get a life" but last time I responded they seemed to become more and more obsessed. I want to make this absolutely clear...this is NOT me Ha - and you know that's where at least half a dozen minds immediately went right? Tells a story in itself. To promise - I usually just have them off'd. Let me know if you want some numbers to call for some contacts with a 'particular set of skills'. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GooniesKid 0 #24 June 11, 2014 normiss WHY would you assume it was????? Well you know...i'm a horn dog but i'm a selective horn dog. That plus i want to stop any rumors floating around thinking it was me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
raftman 12 #25 June 11, 2014 Yeah, my girlfriend thinks I'm a stalker too. Well, she's not really my girlfriend.....................YET!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites