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GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 2:14 PM
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what's going on skydiving friends and community!
AFF class is going very well this summer! Usually on every AFF level i've had different instructors. But, a few weeks ago I was paired with a female instructor...and i think i have a huge crush on her. All throughout the ground course i couldn't make eye contact (cuz i'm generally a shy person). And everytime she'd get close to me my heart would start to beat really fast.

Is it ok for a student to ask their instructors out? Any way i can approach her to even ask her out?

I know it's not really skydiving related but i'm hoping the skydiving community can help out.

Salude!


Fast  (D 28237)

Aug 27, 2012, 2:30 PM
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what's going on skydiving friends and community!
AFF class is going very well this summer! Usually on every AFF level i've had different instructors. But, a few weeks ago I was paired with a female instructor...and i think i have a huge crush on her. All throughout the ground course i couldn't make eye contact (cuz i'm generally a shy person). And everytime she'd get close to me my heart would start to beat really fast.

Is it ok for a student to ask their instructors out? Any way i can approach her to even ask her out?

I know it's not really skydiving related but i'm hoping the skydiving community can help out.

Salude!

Some DZ's have rules against it. Mostly cause it's typically going the other way, male instructor trying to sleep with impressionable girl students.

Also, heh - reality check here. If you're a dude, in an AFF class, with almost no jumping experience and no time around the sport - you are gonna have to be exceptionally amazing as a person in personality, looks or both to get her attention.

It's like 2:1 dudes to chicks (or worse) on a dropzone, she likely has more attention than she knows what to do with.

That said, hey - you never know if you don't ask right? SmileSmile


GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 2:38 PM
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what's going on skydiving friends and community!
AFF class is going very well this summer! Usually on every AFF level i've had different instructors. But, a few weeks ago I was paired with a female instructor...and i think i have a huge crush on her. All throughout the ground course i couldn't make eye contact (cuz i'm generally a shy person). And everytime she'd get close to me my heart would start to beat really fast.

Is it ok for a student to ask their instructors out? Any way i can approach her to even ask her out?

I know it's not really skydiving related but i'm hoping the skydiving community can help out.

Salude!

Some DZ's have rules against it. Mostly cause it's typically going the other way, male instructor trying to sleep with impressionable girl students.

Also, heh - reality check here. If you're a dude, in an AFF class, with almost no jumping experience and no time around the sport - you are gonna have to be exceptionally amazing as a person in personality, looks or both to get her attention.

It's like 2:1 dudes to chicks (or worse) on a dropzone, she likely has more attention than she knows what to do with.

That said, hey - you never know if you don't ask right? SmileSmile
Hey Fast, thanks for insight. I think that's what i was eluding to..if there is any rules when it comes to a student asking an instructor out.
And you are right...more guys than girls out there and i'm sure she is getting more attention that she is immune or just shuts it out during her work day. I just didn't want to be known as the student that tried to ask his instructor out on a date and failed miserably.


Quagmirian  (A 110392)

Aug 27, 2012, 2:54 PM
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I thought this thread was going to be about the attraction you get to your instructor in the plane. I've had that lots of times. I though it was well documented, but oh well. I don't think there's anything wrong with a genuine attraction between OP and his/her instructor, and it's nothing that a massive experience gap would stop.


Krip  (Student)

Aug 27, 2012, 3:00 PM
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HI kid

Don't sweat the rules lots of instructors date/marry their students, some do it even more than once.

But your a dude and your name isn't Tiger Woods, John Edwards, Bill Gates, #2 etc.

On a happy note you will never know until you ask. Go for itTongue

R.


skydiverbry  (D License)

Aug 27, 2012, 3:05 PM
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No guts, no glory!!SmileSmile







Bry


normiss  (D 28356)

Aug 27, 2012, 3:15 PM
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Or just wait your turn!
It IS a DZ....
Tongue


skydiverbry  (D License)

Aug 27, 2012, 3:35 PM
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Good pointCool
Tongue








Bry


GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 3:43 PM
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I'll probably ask her out at some point after my AFF class. I dig her personality, looks, and attitude but i think if i have feelings for her it might distract me and i can miss some key information/lesson she is trying to explain (considering if i have her again as an instructor).
Wait a sec, is it true that i would have to wait (figuratively speaking of course)? There's no way it can be that easy is it? I know it's premature, but if i were to go out with her i think it'd be for the long haul instead of a one nite stand kind of thing.


excaza  (C License)

Aug 27, 2012, 4:05 PM
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You're being awfully indecisive for someone who voluntarily decided to learn how to jump out of an airplane.


Mr_Polite  (D 420)

Aug 27, 2012, 4:25 PM
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Give her a kiss in freefall. If that goes well you should be able to get her to atleast do a 2 or 3 way with youWink


cocheese  (D 24000)

Aug 27, 2012, 4:29 PM
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Give her a kiss in freefall. If that goes well you should be able to get her to atleast do a 2 or 3 way with youWink

Dude, you're a geniusSlyCool


GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 4:37 PM
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Theoretically, if i were to kiss her in freefall or before we exit the plane, would she fail me for that jump?


hillson  (D 33134)

Aug 27, 2012, 4:41 PM
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Please post a link to the staff page of the DZ where you jump.

Thx


cocheese  (D 24000)

Aug 27, 2012, 4:43 PM
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I think you would pass the jump if you don't chip a tooth.Wink


Mr_Polite  (D 420)

Aug 27, 2012, 4:58 PM
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As CoCheese said if you don't chip her tooth or make her bleed you'll be ok.


peregrinerose  (D 28983)

Aug 27, 2012, 5:00 PM
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what's going on skydiving friends and community!
AFF class is going very well this summer! Usually on every AFF level i've had different instructors. But, a few weeks ago I was paired with a female instructor...and i think i have a huge crush on her. All throughout the ground course i couldn't make eye contact (cuz i'm generally a shy person). And everytime she'd get close to me my heart would start to beat really fast.

Is it ok for a student to ask their instructors out? Any way i can approach her to even ask her out?

I know it's not really skydiving related but i'm hoping the skydiving community can help out.

Salude!

Wait til you have a license and are no longer are a student. Gender doesn't matter a whit here, it's a learning thing. You'll listen better to someone you are not going out with, that's just the way it is. It sets up an awkward vibe when a student (as in pre A license) is dating one of the staff.

Consider it incentive to get your A quickly Smile


GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 5:14 PM
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what's going on skydiving friends and community!
AFF class is going very well this summer! Usually on every AFF level i've had different instructors. But, a few weeks ago I was paired with a female instructor...and i think i have a huge crush on her. All throughout the ground course i couldn't make eye contact (cuz i'm generally a shy person). And everytime she'd get close to me my heart would start to beat really fast.

Is it ok for a student to ask their instructors out? Any way i can approach her to even ask her out?

I know it's not really skydiving related but i'm hoping the skydiving community can help out.

Salude!

Wait til you have a license and are no longer are a student. Gender doesn't matter a whit here, it's a learning thing. You'll listen better to someone you are not going out with, that's just the way it is. It sets up an awkward vibe when a student (as in pre A license) is dating one of the staff.
Consider it incentive to get your A quickly Smile

I know what you mean. I felt totally awkward and at times I couldn't concentrate on what she was saying. I was literally awe struck. Thats why I entertained the idea of just concentrating on getting the A lic ...that way I won't so nervous being a student.


cocheese  (D 24000)

Aug 27, 2012, 5:27 PM
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Don't let a woman try to put logic in your love. If it was the other way around (male instructor with female student) we would have to do that, but this is a unique case and you need to get it together. Cool

You can get this girl. Now pay attention to her even if this is the only time you ever listen to her again. Wink You have to impress her with your listening skills first. (meanwhile go to a tunnel and max your credit cards) Sly


Premier NWFlyer  (D 29960)

Aug 27, 2012, 5:46 PM
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what's going on skydiving friends and community!
AFF class is going very well this summer! Usually on every AFF level i've had different instructors. But, a few weeks ago I was paired with a female instructor...and i think i have a huge crush on her. All throughout the ground course i couldn't make eye contact (cuz i'm generally a shy person). And everytime she'd get close to me my heart would start to beat really fast.

Is it ok for a student to ask their instructors out? Any way i can approach her to even ask her out?

I know it's not really skydiving related but i'm hoping the skydiving community can help out.

Salude!

Wait til you have a license and are no longer are a student. Gender doesn't matter a whit here, it's a learning thing. You'll listen better to someone you are not going out with, that's just the way it is. It sets up an awkward vibe when a student (as in pre A license) is dating one of the staff.

Consider it incentive to get your A quickly Smile

Plus that'll give the OP enough time to figure out if she's even single. One important thing to note is that a lot of married folks don't wear their wedding rings while jumping for various reasons (safety, risk of losing the ring, etc.) Probably want to know if she's one of them.


Premier skybytch  (D License)

Aug 27, 2012, 5:57 PM
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Plus that'll give the OP enough time to figure out if she's even single. One important thing to note is that a lot of married folks don't wear their wedding rings while jumping for various reasons (safety, risk of losing the ring, etc.) Probably want to know if she's one of them.

Might want to make sure she's not the wife/girlfriend of the local rigger first as well. Sly


oldwomanc6

Aug 27, 2012, 6:01 PM
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Plus that'll give the OP enough time to figure out if she's even single. One important thing to note is that a lot of married folks don't wear their wedding rings while jumping for various reasons (safety, risk of losing the ring finger, etc.) Probably want to know if she's one of them.
FIFY Pirate


Premier Remster  (C License)

Aug 27, 2012, 6:03 PM
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Plus that'll give the OP enough time to figure out if she's even single. One important thing to note is that a lot of married folks don't wear their wedding rings while jumping for various reasons (safety, risk of losing the ring, etc.) Probably want to know if she's one of them.

Might want to make sure she's not the wife/girlfriend of the local rigger first as well. Sly

Fuck it.

Be eXtReMe!


GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 6:04 PM
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Plus that'll give the OP enough time to figure out if she's even single. One important thing to note is that a lot of married folks don't wear their wedding rings while jumping for various reasons (safety, risk of losing the ring, etc.) Probably want to know if she's one of them.

Might want to make sure she's not the wife/girlfriend of the local rigger first as well. Sly


I agree. I dont even know if she's attached atm and i wouldn't want to overstep those bounds..especially if the one she's attached to is a rigger, rigging my 'chute until I can pack by myself, right?


GooniesKid

Aug 27, 2012, 6:05 PM
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Don't let a woman try to put logic in your love. If it was the other way around (male instructor with female student) we would have to do that, but this is a unique case and you need to get it together. Cool

You can get this girl. Now pay attention to her even if this is the only time you ever listen to her again. Wink You have to impress her with your listening skills first. (meanwhile go to a tunnel and max your credit cards) Sly

+1 Must be a good listener!


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