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Did your parents know you went skydiving your first time?

 


orangechicken

Oct 25, 2012, 3:38 PM
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Okay, so I'm 20 years old and I really want to do a tandem then an AFF jump.

The only thing holding me back is that my parents are against it, regardless of statistics, and I completely understand - If I flipped the script, I wouldn't let my kid go either. It feels odd going against my parents' wishes.

Did your parents approve of your first time?


Premier wmw999  (D 6296)

Oct 25, 2012, 3:41 PM
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I was self-sufficient, so it wasn't an issue. Because of that, I told them, and my mother came to watch. She said that if I was going to die, she wanted to be there ShockedLaugh

I was also 20 at the time.

Wendy P.


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lookoutbelow  (A 63826)

Oct 25, 2012, 3:47 PM
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My first was a static line when I was 19. I didn't tell anyone I was going. Just went and did it. If I had been living with my parents, I probably would have told them before I did it, and I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have tried to stop me or explicitly told me not to. I'm sure they would have voiced concerns, but nothing beyond that.


Premier likestojump  (D License)

Oct 25, 2012, 3:48 PM
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If you are still sucking on your parents tit, and prefer to keep doing so, then I suggest you either don't tell them, or get them to be ok with it.

If you are independant, then I strongly advise you to let them know that you are doing it and they are welcome to watch or hate you.

I was 20 when I did my first jump. I told my mom about it. I also rode to the DZ on a motorcycle that I bought when I turned 18 my senior year of high school, against my mother's wishes.


Trafficdiver  (D License)

Oct 25, 2012, 3:50 PM
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Okay, so I'm 20 years old and I really want to do a tandem then an AFF jump.

The only thing holding me back is that my parents are against it, regardless of statistics, and I completely understand - If I flipped the script, I wouldn't let my kid go either. It feels odd going against my parents' wishes.

Did your parents approve of your first time?

Are you living for them or are you living for you?

My only regret is that I didn't start when I was 20. Wink


Southern_Man  (C License)

Oct 25, 2012, 4:16 PM
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I was almost 40 when I went for the first time, so it just never occurred to me to tell them before I went.

Just as an alternate viewpoint, though, I saw a young woman come out just after her 18th birthday to do a tandem and wind up having to go to the hospital. She came with a friend but they had not told her parents. I would hate to be on the other end of that phone call.


DcloudZ  (B 37320)

Oct 25, 2012, 4:20 PM
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Have a serious talk with your (hopefully) mature parents. Don't talk about statistics or anything, just say that this is something that really interests you and that you are going to go ahead with it with or without your blessing. Tell them that it would mean a lot to you if they supported you on this adventureSmile

Hope for the best!

Hell I dragged my dad along to do our first tandem together and I did my second tandem with my mom! She also did another tandem with me after I got my A license, so we rode the plane up together Cool


DaVincisEnvy  (C License)

Oct 25, 2012, 5:04 PM
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I told my parents.

After I got on the ground. At the time, I was 19 years old and spending the summer half a continent away, so my parents were simultaneously quite supportive of my independence and completely unable to do anything about it.

To be fair, though, I started jumping off the roof of the garage at the age of 5 and had told them since the age of 10 that I was going to go skydiving, so while the timing may have been a bit of a surprise, the act itself definitely was not.

Talk to your parents if you think they'll come around. If you think they'll never support it, consider whether taking up this sport is worth possibly damaging that relationship and how much damage it could cause. Your call.


dthames  (B 37674)

Oct 25, 2012, 5:16 PM
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My 77 year old mother told me "If there is something you want to do, do it while you still feel up to it. I did 2 jumps and told her in a normal conversation a few days later. I was 54, last Oct when I started.

I would suggest you do your best to calmly try to bring them over to some type of approval.

As someone already said, if out are depending on them for money or housing, I would suggest you not go against their wishes. it is a matter of respect and courtesy. Sort of hard to expect them to treat you as an adult if you are a dependent.


devildog  (C 40302)

Oct 25, 2012, 6:01 PM
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My only regret is that I didn't start when I was 20. Wink
I think that at times, but then a large part of me is glad I didn't. I'd have probably killed myself, to be honest.


jzzsxm  (B License)

Oct 25, 2012, 6:25 PM
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I didn't tell my parents when I went. It was during the summer between sophomore and junior year in college. I was home for the summer and went out with friends to do it.

Best part? I had a malfunction and a reserve ride, so when I got home the first thing I said to my parents was
"Guess what the phrase of the day is!"

"What?"

"Well, it's a good thing we have two parachutes!"

They were good natured about it and generally of the mindset that, at this point in my life, I can make my own decisions so long as it only really affects me.

If your parents are less like that then I'd tell them beforehand.


JerryBaumchen  (D 1543)

Oct 25, 2012, 6:30 PM
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Hi Southern,

The one phone call that I am very glad not to have been on was a guy who used to hang out at the same bar I did back when I was single & in my twenties.

He got picked up in a raid on a joint, was down at the precint, called his wife because he did not have bail money & would be spending the night. He was heard to say, "Now honey, a sodomy charge is really not what you think it is."

Tongue

JerryBaumchen


normiss  (D 28356)

Oct 25, 2012, 6:52 PM
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I was 42 when I started, my father passed away in 1984....and mom laughed when I asked her that.
Her response:
"It's safer than those damn motorcycles you ride, I'm sure."
Cool



(miss you mom!)
Smile


cuoffrdn  (B 38457)

Oct 25, 2012, 8:09 PM
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My parents and sister and her husband came to watch me do my tandem and when I landed I told my family that it was the coolest thing I had ever experienced and my mom said "I could do that." It wasn't 15 minutes later she was signing paperwork to jump. I already knew that I wanted to sign up for AFF before my tandem but first I wanted to experience a tandem before AFF, and now just 2 months after I did my tandem I am 3 skydives away from getting my A license.


hybrid59

Oct 25, 2012, 8:28 PM
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One of my daughters and I did our first tandem together, then we did the AFF together a couple of years later.

The two of us jumped this summer with my other daughter who did a tandem, we were all on the same load in sequence.

Am I a bad parent..........


missbrz  (B License)

Oct 25, 2012, 8:48 PM
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My parents completely encouraged it!


... well they encouraged me to do a tandem... little did they know I meant AFF and haven't stopped. NOW they approve less TongueSlySly


Whamie  (No License)

Oct 25, 2012, 9:08 PM
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My parents were present for my first jump...before i boarded the plane i kissed my mom, told her i love her, and said i'll be back soon.Angelic


brokenwing  (B 9447)

Oct 26, 2012, 6:04 AM
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i kinda sorta had to tell them as i was 17 and needed their signature on the waiver. took a year to convince them to sign.


airtwardo  (D License)

Oct 26, 2012, 6:13 AM
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I was 18 when I stared and no I didn't tell the folks until I got home that evening...I made two the first day.

My parents knew it was something I was going to do 'someday' so they weren't shocked or upset.

The following weekend I was headed back out to the DZ and my dad asked if he could go along and watch. He brought his Nikon and a case of beer, so he was quite a hit at the dropzone.

Ended up as a really good thing, brought the family closer together...both parents became regulars at the DZ, we spent more time together than we would have.

It made Christmas and birthdays better too, pops would throw me the para-gear catalog and ask what I needed! Cool


Lindenwood  (Student)

Oct 26, 2012, 6:25 AM
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I got video of my first AFF jump (had never done a tandem) and went to their house that evening and said "hey, look at this neat video!" My mom's expressions and shrieks were priceless Tongue.


faulk04  (D 32457)

Oct 26, 2012, 7:00 AM
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My mom paid for my tandem...had some family party that night and I showed everyone else the video...they weren't too happy. 2 years later the only one who really approves is my mom. I have even been offered a good amount of money from the rest of my family members to stop jumping


DanDanInc  (Student)

Oct 26, 2012, 7:44 AM
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My parents didn't know. I can't wait for my kids to be able to go. I want to take a trip to Sweden to let them jump at 15.


jverley  (D 16677)

Oct 26, 2012, 7:50 AM
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My first jump was a static line jump with my Father. Mom and Sis came out to watch.


Avikus  (C License)

Oct 26, 2012, 8:18 AM
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My story goes like this...

Ever since that Canada Day celebration weekend where I first saw someone under canopy, about age 9-10, I wanted to be a skydiver. Sadly enough, school and social life always put that idea aside.

Last year, May 2011, I come "home" and tell my mom that I'll finally going to go skydive a few weeks later...

Before I tell you her reaction, I wanna say that our relation between her and I was always, always positive. From my first experience with Alcohol and Bar (never got into drugs *high five*) she always took it as "Live your life because I didn't". She was the oldest of 7 kids so she was always a 2nd mother her whole teens life.

So I come home, tell her and she flip the F out! I mean cursing and being angry and everything! I was very, very surprised. Did not expect such a reaction from the calm, positive mother I grew up with.

After her little tantrum, she finally go away and come back 30 sec later with a card. I had my graduation ceremony a few weeks after (3 days after my tandem was schedule). She give it to me and tell me to open it.

"Dear son, I am very proud of you for all your hard work finally paying off. It was a dream of mine to see you graduating and to thank you for making my dream come true, I will make yours come true. You will finally going to experience skydiving. (...)"

My mom flipped out because I ruined her surprise. So let's just say that I got my tandem paid for ;)

Sadly she didn't know it was the beginning of a whole new chapter in my life. But she is very happy for me that I found one hell of a passion.


Love ya mom!


airtwardo  (D License)

Oct 26, 2012, 12:18 PM
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"Dear son, I am very proud of you for all your hard work finally paying off. It was a dream of mine to see you graduating and to thank you for making my dream come true, I will make yours come true. You will finally going to experience skydiving. (...)"


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TOO COOL! Cool


stringtheorygal

Oct 26, 2012, 3:02 PM
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I am very lucky in this respect. Even as an independent adult, disappointing the parents is rough on me. Yeah, I'm working on that Wink...

For my tandem, I waited until after (wanted to spare him the worry) and then sent the link to the video to my Dad over email. He was thrilled and proud!

I just returned home from a visit during which I revealed my intentions to pursue jumping beyond the "bucket-list" experience. I wasn't sure how that would go over as my sweet Dad is a big worrier. However, he was very excited, full of questions, and put up with me chattering on about it the whole time I was home. Probably helps that he has a background in aviation, but most importantly, I think it made him happy to see me so happy.

Orangechicken, regardless of whether or not you have anyone's approval, there are things we may feel strongly compelled to experience in this short time we have on the planet. Ideally you can find a way to enjoy an activity with the support of those you love. Maybe that will mean waiting a bit, continuing to educate your parents, demonstrating that this is a thoughtful decision and not a young person's antics, etc. Whatever it may be, I do wish you luck! If you're anything like me, once you've started (I'm still in that wide-eyed, brand-new stage), it will be difficult to even think about anything else!

You're not the only one who "feels odd going against their parents' wishes" Smile.


surfbum5411

Oct 26, 2012, 3:04 PM
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Do your parents know you're gay?


Mild_Matt

Oct 26, 2012, 5:20 PM
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Meh - well my folks know I'm gay Wink Do we not skydive as well as you breeders or are you just being a git? Tongue

My folks were seriously pissed off when I told them I was going to try and learn to skydive. Having returned home, after stalling at level 5 (go figure re above comment...) but having seen footage of me doing it, they are now more relaxed about me doing wind tunnel time and going out to try and complete. I guess they just needed to understand this isn't some crazy death wish, just something I wanted to do...


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phreeloader  (Student)

Oct 26, 2012, 7:41 PM
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My 1st jump was an IAD jump when i was 19, but that was almost 15 years ago, and I couldn't remember if i told my parents or not.

So I just called my mom to ask, and she said I did not tell her.. just like i did not tell her when i decided to get a few tattoos and piercings (it was the 90s.. that stuff was still cool Wink )

but THEN she said thank you... and told me I always did a good job of protecting her from my shenanigans so that she didn't have to worry.

Unfortunately I ran out of time & money and never made it beyond a handful of jumps, and never finished the IAD course. But I just recently moved to Deland and found out that it's pretty much skydiving Mecca. So I'm scrounging up the money, and making the time. So I'll be starting My AFF very soon. But this time I'll probably tell mom Smile


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JohnMitchell  (D 6462)

Oct 26, 2012, 10:29 PM
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I was 17 and forged my release form. BlushAngelic

Sorry. Smile


Andy9o8  (D License)

Oct 27, 2012, 12:00 AM
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Long story short - No.
I was 18. It was the correct choice, and I've never regretted it.


jimmytavino  (A 3914)

Oct 27, 2012, 8:05 AM
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I was 17 and forged my release form. BlushAngelic

Sorry. Smile



Smile so did I, John.
i was 350 miles away, at college, the training class was the next day...I had just turned 19.
I Did call to say, " i'm joining one of "the college clubs"...
Mom said " oh Good.. the science Club"?,,
i said " No"
She said, " Oh !!! the Chess Club "?
I said " No.. the skydiving club".
she then reminded me... " But you have never even been IN , an airplane " !!!ShockedUnsure
and I said... " i Know... THAT"S why i'm joining "!!!
" is it OK write Dad's name on the waiver"??.. ( i already had SOME "practice", on That,,, signing homework and such...)
so that's what i did...

they were always supportive, found that i didn't 'neglect ' other areas of my life, because of it, realized that it helped to keep me happy...that i've made MANY good friends through the sport, and even invited me to do a Demo into their yard for the 4th of July Picnic...... Twice !!!!
Once in the 70's and once again in '96 .
My grandfather signed my logbook, the First Time and Dad signed it , the second time...
Cool

it is a touchy subject... though.

I knew a guy once. who had almost 900 jumps he was talking to someone at the dropzone, who knew his folks, and was gonna visit their hometown soon.... So this guy says, " Hey ! make sure you don't say ANYthing to them, about my jumping... My parents think that the money they've been sending me... is for various College fees and Tuition !!!! hahahahaha.. i laughed for a WEEK... over That one !!LaughCoolWink

jmy


jamjumps  (A License)

Oct 27, 2012, 8:27 AM
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My Mother had the same motorcycle comment....Go buy a Motorcycle Orange Chicken the nit won't matter!!!


orangechicken

Oct 27, 2012, 9:20 AM
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Wow, I didn't expect to get so many helpful responses!

I read through this thread multiple times, and I've decided that I'm going to talk it over with my parents, out of courtesy like some of you guys mentioned. I'm 2000 miles away for college, so going skydiving without their permission is easy... but just doesn't sit "right". Besides, I'd like to go home to socal, as skydive perris seems like a great facility - Can anyone refute/confirm this?

Some more background: I'm graduating early to go to med school next year, and this is one of the few things I've always wanted to cross off the "pre-career bucket list". I finished my first Ironman when I was 19, and that whole ironman ordeal freaked my mom out the entire year I was training (fear of my drowning, crashing etc.) I'm pretty sure skydiving will take my mom's anxiety to a whole new level, but my dad's always been supportive.

Thanks again everybody for your time.


wolfriverjoe  (A 50013)

Oct 27, 2012, 10:24 AM
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Did your parents approve of your first time?

Approve is a strong word.

Accept is a much more accurate one in my case.
I was 32, married and on my own, so their approval wasn't entirely necessary. But I care about them and their feelings and their acceptance was fairly important.

I did a lot of the standard "stupid adolescent" stuff. I had a motorcycle since I was 18, pilot's licence in my early 20s, so they had a pretty good tolerance for worring about me.

Ironically, my mom was better with it than my dad. All she asked was that I use an AAD and not BASE jump.
Dad never saw me jump. He only came out to the DZ once before he died, and it was for a benefit event where I couldn't jump. He was impressed, but had no desire to see me do it. He also watched a video of some early H&Ps I did, and fliched visibly at each jump.

Mom, OTOH, came out one day to watch when I was flying the plane, and not jumping (she figured she wouldn't have to worry about me if I wasn't jumping). She had a ball seeing the other guys jump. So the next time I went to jump, she came along. And again, had a ball. We had video on the jumps, and a high overcast in the sky. She could see us go out of the plane, in freefall and then under canopy. Then we'd put the video up on the hangar TV and she could see it from that perspective. She's going to be 75 this winter, and still comes out fairly often. She loves sitting on the picnic table, watching the goings on. She loves seeing the first timers, scared silly on the ground before and triumphant and ecstatic after.


oldwomanc6

Oct 27, 2012, 5:19 PM
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I was 19.

I come from an aviation background (my dad's an aeronautical engineer, both my brothers fly. one of them is a captain for Southwest Airlines).
I told them I was going to do it. They didn't believe me. Part of it was they thought I was too chicken, part of it was I am a girl.

I did it, and when I came home all hyped up, they said "hush up, we're in the middle of a TV show". They, never, in all the years I was actively jumping, acknowledge that I did something they never will.

Fuck
'Em
Feed
'Em
Fish


Rookie120  (D 22748)

Oct 27, 2012, 5:37 PM
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My parents knew. My dad also did his first jump on my 18th b-day. They are cool with it.


nigel99  (D 1)

Oct 28, 2012, 4:42 PM
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I was 16 and needed the waiver signed, so I had to tell them. My folks thought I'd be too scared to jump so they signed.

21 years later they have accepted that I like jumping :)


guineapiggie101

Oct 28, 2012, 5:02 PM
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Right now I only do tandems (previously I did AFF for a while).

My parents have no idea. My brother knows.

I recently told my uncle (he's cool and won't tell my mom) and he thought that was dangerous, but he said if it makes me happy, I should go for it.


oldwomanc6

Oct 28, 2012, 5:09 PM
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Smile


aeio540  (Student)

Oct 28, 2012, 7:44 PM
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I just turned 30 (last week) and did my second jump tandem. The wife jumped for the 2nd time as well. I will proceed with AFF, but my wife isn't interested in anything more. We are self sufficient with careers of our own and live 1500 miles away from them.

Have I told my parents? NO! I love them to death but one thing I found is that most parents don't stop being parents regardless of age.

My parents are the kind of people that hear something "from a friend" or "on the news the other day" and completely overreact.

They'll watch the World's Scariest/Wildest/Craziest videos and suddenly that becomes a norm for them.

Go to a concert? The stage will collapse.
Attend an Airshow? A plane will plow into the crowd
Watch a car race? A racecar will be launched into the grandstands.
Attend the Texas State Fair? Big Tex will burn to the ground...again.

Cliff notes: If you are an adult and own your own house and have your own job, you do what you want.


Chris-Ottawa  (A License)

Oct 29, 2012, 4:40 AM
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And the reason they overreact is because your mentality promotes that behaviour.

Consider this:

Scenario 1:
Aerio jumps without telling his parents, busts his back on landing. Parents hear about the incident through the news, and freak. Dropzone is sued for "injuring" their son because they don't have the slightest clue about what happened.

Scenario 2:
Aerio jumps after telling his parents that it's something he's always wanted to do. It has some risk, but because he wears big boy pants, he would like to do it regardless of mommy and daddy's feelings because it makes him happy. Mommy and Daddy start youtubeing and asking Aerio "what if this, and what about that" which gives him the opportunity to explain the safety measures built into the systems and the safety practices that jumpers observe. Now, Aerio has 20 jumps and buys himself a Velo 79 (big boy parachute), and bounces. Now, Mommy and Daddy will surely react, but they have a different approach. They realize that you did what you enjoyed, they knew that you knew there was risk, they knew that you were as safe as you could be (or that's what you told them before you bought your big boy Velo), but unfortunately that risk bit you. Now, they would be aware that you were as safe as you could be, they expected a chance of risk and they let you go knowing that you were happy.

See how different that can be? Plus, even if you tell your parents, are they going to drive 1500 miles and hold your hand so you don't jump? What's the disadvantage of telling them if you're a big boy and going to do whatever you want anyways? Sounds like someone is scared that Mommy and Daddy might get mad and not talk to him for making a big boy decision.

That's my perspective. Enjoy!


(This post was edited by Chris-Ottawa on Oct 29, 2012, 4:43 AM)


Rickendiver  (A 62842)

Oct 29, 2012, 6:47 AM
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I did AFF at age 55, so parents werent a factor. Didn't tell my fam until I was 3 or 4 jumps into AFF. Been flying airplanes for 35 years or so, but my daughter still gives me endless shit about learning to skydive. Pretty sure my brother wasnt too keen on it, either (long-time jump pilot) but I think theyll come around to being cool with it eventually.


Fast  (D 28237)

Oct 29, 2012, 8:27 AM
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I didn't tell them before I went, I just went and did a tandem. My mom did know that I was going to do AFF though and that I kept going back.

I made it to about 500 jumps before she told me that she couldn't deal with it anymore. It worried her too much. Told me to move out or quit skydiving. She thought it would make jumping cost prohibitive, I moved out and it didn't. It took her a few years to get over it, but she has since been out to the dz, seen video, seen me swoop, I married a skydiver, etc. She understands it all more now and is tolerant of it because it's a big part of my life at this point.


aeio540  (Student)

Oct 29, 2012, 9:29 AM
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And the reason they overreact is because your mentality promotes that behaviour.

Consider this:

Scenario 1:
Aerio jumps without telling his parents, busts his back on landing. Parents hear about the incident through the news, and freak. Dropzone is sued for "injuring" their son because they don't have the slightest clue about what happened.

Scenario 2:
Aerio jumps after telling his parents that it's something he's always wanted to do. It has some risk, but because he wears big boy pants, he would like to do it regardless of mommy and daddy's feelings because it makes him happy. Mommy and Daddy start youtubeing and asking Aerio "what if this, and what about that" which gives him the opportunity to explain the safety measures built into the systems and the safety practices that jumpers observe. Now, Aerio has 20 jumps and buys himself a Velo 79 (big boy parachute), and bounces. Now, Mommy and Daddy will surely react, but they have a different approach. They realize that you did what you enjoyed, they knew that you knew there was risk, they knew that you were as safe as you could be (or that's what you told them before you bought your big boy Velo), but unfortunately that risk bit you. Now, they would be aware that you were as safe as you could be, they expected a chance of risk and they let you go knowing that you were happy.

See how different that can be? Plus, even if you tell your parents, are they going to drive 1500 miles and hold your hand so you don't jump? What's the disadvantage of telling them if you're a big boy and going to do whatever you want anyways? Sounds like someone is scared that Mommy and Daddy might get mad and not talk to him for making a big boy decision.

That's my perspective. Enjoy!

Nope. Not worried that they won't talk to me. It's that they'll continue to talk to me about it. I've taken time to explain everything to them big boy style. Unfortunately there are cats that will never accept decisions in life. My family falls into that category.

Now if I were 20 and still living at home, I would def explain everything to them.


Andy9o8  (D License)

Oct 29, 2012, 1:13 PM
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You describe my mom to a T. More or less the hysterical type. I made my first jump at age 18. Freshman in college, living away at school; and yeah, they were paying for school. In my defense, I did pay for all of my own training and jumps. Wink Anyhow, I think I was around 36 when I finally discussed it with my mom, for the first time, as very much a fait accompli. Definitely the right decision, in my case, and I've never lost a wink of sleep over it.


adventurechick  (C 35899)

Oct 30, 2012, 1:19 PM
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I did my first jump at 20, then started my AFF immediately after that. I did pay my own bills, but I didn't exactly let them know until I had about 25 jumps.


stangbanger856

Oct 30, 2012, 6:21 PM
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The 1st time I whent I was 24, I told my dad but not my mom ( divorced ) and my dad was completely supportive but knew my mom would not. So I whent and calles my dad as soon as I could to let him know I was ok. Thay was 2 years ago and just the other day I was talking to my mom about Felix B....(cant spell it off the top of my head) and the jump he made from "space". I was trying to explain what he's going threw and asked me why I was so into it. "Its not like you will ever go yourself" she said. So after a moment to think about my response I said "well now that you mention it I have already gone twice and going again this weekend". I wish I got that on video because the look. On her face was hilarious!


dks13827  (C 9293)

Oct 30, 2012, 6:26 PM
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yes. It was okay since they knew it was a lifelong dream to be a skydiver. ( but they still dont know about the bike !!! ha ha. After many many years. )


gregpso  (Student)

Oct 30, 2012, 11:26 PM
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I was 22 when i did the FJC static line at Pakenham in Victoria Australia in 1981.(Commando Skydivers) I turned up did the course and then told my parents on the Sunday night after the 1st jump. I coped heaps of Mum but Dad was OK about it. I am now 54 and returned briefly to jumping form age 50 to 53 (19 tandems and 5 AFFs).. . This time I made full disclosure to parents and even took them to the DZ at Nagambie. (which they enjoyed)

Invite your parents to come along they mights just feel better about it. (hopefully)


brucet7  (C 38954)

Oct 31, 2012, 3:30 PM
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I too was 55 when I did my first jump (static line). Mom didn't really like it, but it didn't matter much. She saw me the first time after 30 or so, and had to admit that she liked watching more than she thought.

As to the rest of my family, my wife encouraged it, and my kids gave me gifts certs for birthday presents.


racerman  (C 18409)

Nov 2, 2012, 6:01 PM
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They had to, I needed a ride to the DZ. I just turned 16 and didn't have a drivers liscense yet.


FlyingRhenquest  (B 37920)

Nov 2, 2012, 9:01 PM
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They had to, I needed a ride to the DZ. I just turned 16 and didn't have a drivers liscense yet.

Sweet! Did you get your A license before your driver's license? That would be epic!


pontiacgtp00  (F 111)

Nov 2, 2012, 10:42 PM
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My first jump was a tandem, they thought it was really cool, scary, but looked like fun. Three days later when I said I'm going back to learn how to skydive on my own I got the response "No nooo, you don't need to be going and doing all that again this weekend, we'll go some other weekend I don't have the time this weekend to go." My response: "What? Well you aren't exactly required to be at the dropzone while I jump, you'd probably be bored to tears anyway."

For the next year after I was licensed, if the weekend was gray + rainy my folks would make comments "Wow too bad you can't go skydive this weekend, maybe next weekend huh." When the weather was clear though they'd make comments like "You don't have to go jumping every single weekend, skydiving will still be there even if you take a few months off."

Note: They knew about it from Facebook status updates and all that, I didn't live with them.

Eventually they simply lost track of when I was skydiving or not, and we eventually stopped talking about it altogether.


racerman  (C 18409)

Nov 2, 2012, 11:06 PM
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Between Skydiving, dating,school and working to pay for everything it took awhile to get my A. I needed my DL asap so I didn't have to depend on a ride. It's hard to soar like an eagle with your Dad or worse, your Mom hanging out a the DZ while you jump.


Striker1521  (B 37455)

Nov 7, 2012, 5:44 PM
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My mom was worried when I told her I was going on a tandem. She cried when I told her I was going through with AFF. She's used to it by now.


TriGirl  (B License)

Nov 9, 2012, 6:34 AM
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Two stories:

Story #1 (my own). I was in college, working weekend nights in a blues bar. One of my friends called me at work to say that several guys were going skydiving the next day, they had an extra spot, and did I want to take it? Once I figured out I could afford it, I said, "of course!" The next evening I called Mom to tell her what I did that weekend. As I expected, she laughed a bit, was glad I had fun, and was also glad I chose to tell her after the fact, so she wouldn't spend the day worrying! Smile

Story #2: A military officer from another country happens also to be royalty (names/countries withheld since I don't have her permission!). When she was 18, and a commissioned officer, she was doing an exchange tour in the US. She had the opportunity, so she did the static line course at Ft. Benning. She didn't call home to tell Daddy (a.k.a. His Majesty) until after she had earned her jump wings! LaughLaugh From what I understand, he understood that that was just her nature and sort of laughed it off. However, she is still convinced that had she "asked permission," she would have been denied. Last I talked to her, she had quit jumping because of a neck injury, but still wishes she could get back in the air! Cool


ph.nilsson  (A License)

Nov 9, 2012, 9:22 AM
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Well, I got my first tandem skydive as a graduation-gift with the motivation that "it seems like something your (older) brother would like to do". They figured I wouldn't go. And I didn't. Until about 2 years later, after starting to climb and watching a climbing movie with some base in it, at which point I sent an email asking a dropzone when they opened for the season.

The response I got was "you're booked 1030 on saturday" and so I figured I might as well just go with it. My parents drove me to the dropzone while trying to convince me that I could go do some other activity instead, "what about a hot-air ballon ride?". Three weeks later I did another tandem, this time my parents were really not liking the idea.

Another month passed and before my aff started. Now, at 45 jumps, my mom reeeally doesn't like it (even crying while telling me that she doesn't want me to die at one point...) whereas I kinda suspect that my dad brags a bit about it at work and such...


krissy23  (C 104511)

Nov 16, 2012, 5:32 AM
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I was 21 when I did my first jump (tandem). It was my birthday present from my Mum and Dad and they came with me to watch. Dad actually apologised when I landed because he saw the look in my eyes that meant that their gift was going to go on to cost me a lot of time and money over the years!



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